Phone Call, Text Message, In Person…
Which Breakup Method Sucks The Most
If you read my last life update post, then, among other things, you know I’m single once again, this time, after being in a relationship for a month.
However, that’s not what I want to talk about in this post.
We’ll be discussing the three main ways someone can end things: in person, by phone call, and by text message, and seeing which one is the worst way to do it.
Breakups Are Never Fun
Most of us don’t want to go through a breakup with whoever we’re dating. But how someone breaks up with you can definitely determine the suckiness of the situation.
And as someone who has experience with all these breakup styles, I feel like I can speak on this.
Phone Call
How my last relationship came to an end.
For context, this was how we communicated for the majority of the time, as driving is his job, so he had a lot of free time to talk. Our longest phone call was over five hours long.
And my presence in Texas was in flux, which made things weird and strained. So, it wasn’t exactly a surprise.
It still sucked, though. I couldn’t help but break down crying as he was telling me (I cried for all my breakups, but that’s beside the point).
Text Message
This is how my first boyfriend broke up with me, after asking for a break that lasted for a month (also through messaging), followed by a shitty Valentine’s Day before being given the news a week later.
While I don’t remember the details of these messages, the gist was that, although I was a good person, I was too much for him, and he couldn’t handle it.
And it broke my heart.
In Person
My second relationship. The relationship I moved halfway across the country for. The one that changed my whole life.
What made this one especially awkward for a while was that we were (and still are) living together.
Lucky for me, I left and spent two weeks in Washington a couple of days after it happened. Then, he left for a month and a half, two days after I returned, so I had time to process it without him around.
We’re really good friends now, much better as friends than partners, and I’m happy he found someone who’s overall more compatible for him. It gives me hope I’ll find my person someday.
Which is the Worst?
You can’t make splitting up with someone fun, even if it is mutual.
But the first breakup was the worst one for me. Did the fact that it was through text make it worse? I wouldn’t be surprised if it were a contributor.
So, because you can see or at least hear them with the other two, I’m leaning toward texting being the worst way to do it.
Moral of the story: don’t be a coward and at least hear their voice when ending things.
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